Gurus and Mentors – When to leave them and their advices behind

By: Heero Yuy

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So… Here in my backyard guy Tai Lopez is pretty infamous on the internet for his “proven steps” on how to not be “materialistic” with his new Lambo because “knowledge” and “books” are so much better to get more “fuel units.” Don’t be a cynic! Listen to his marketing… right? (Don’t focus on these glaring facts, Tai markets himself as a wonderful guy!)

Without a level head and good judgement, how can a person discern good stuff from bullshit? Well, there is this one product I know that has been proven to be effective throughout all of time that solves this very problem! I can show you in three simple steps! No, I won’t. It doesn’t take three steps, it just takes one or actually none. It’s called critical thinking.

When something is too good to be true these days it usually is a scam. Your own ideas should hold their own weight without relying on heavy name dropping of others and credentialing to establish a rapport with the audience by earning their trust and respect. That’s of course assuming the audience is capable of critical thinking so that they may decide if you are legit. If the audience is gullible, well, then one can do anything they want and pre-suade (Book by Robert Cialdini: Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade!).

Gurus and mentors are like tour guides on a long and tedious journey of life. Where they stop at is the peak of their individual experiences and they can lead you to that very point and direct you to yet another person to go beyond this point. While any guru can imagine what it feels like to go beyond their level, they simply lack the experience necessary to guide you further because they don’t know how or where to go! What you can do is politely thank the mentor and guru for leading you up to this point, find your direction, and then trek onward with the next guru and mentor to reach that next milestone.

Asking a questions to someone who you know doesn’t know will not provide you an answer you can trust and act upon regardless of their experience. (Blind leading the blind)

A person who hasn’t pushed their limits of understanding through experience will not know more in due time. Asking a guru that same questions for which they don’t know and haven’t explored at a later date will still not produce a better answer! Use your own experience to guide you to the next set of teachers and keep trekking along to overcome the next obstacle. Think critically and self direct with inner intuition when all else fails.

Experiences – Learning from Others

By: Heero Yuy

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A Chinese Philosopher named Lao Tzu (老子) once wrote:

English:
“Without going outside, you may know the whole world.

Without looking through the window, you may see the ways of heaven.
The farther you go, the less you know.

Thus the sage knows without travelling;
He sees without looking;
He works without doing.”
– Tao Te Ching – Lao Tzu – chapter 47

Chinese:


Asians are known to be the geeky bookworm type and this quote gives a good reason for this hypothesis! There is a wealth of content that can be extracted from the wisdom of the Ancient Chinese Philosophies. A lot can be learned from the experiences of others either living or dead, captured in writing, seen in a video, or heard from radio/audiobook/conversations.

Watching UFC Champion Conor McGregor speak about MMA training during an interview I noticed he placed a huge emphasis on sparing and training working on the precision of his strikes and training the mind. He said this is upgrading the “software” to his “hardware” which is his body. You don’t necessarily NEED to be beaten to a pulp in order to learn how to fight! There are smarter and better ways to get the same if not better training if you know how to upgrade your software.

In the military we drill and train to fight. This repetitive discipline keeps us very sharp and ready to respond to various scenarios effortlessly so that we can smoothly carry out the mission with minimum mistakes. This quote from the post-war debrief of a German General captures the spirit of training:

“The reason the American Army does so well in wartime, is that war is chaos, and the American Army practices it on a daily basis.”

As individuals, we also can find a lot of life’s intricate answers through self reflection rather than seeking out the advice of gurus who found the same solutions by doing the same introspective meditation by themselves. When you find out this truth for yourself it is many folds more rewarding than getting it regurgitated from others. Once the veil comes off, pharisees abolished, and truth liberated we can seek the direct path to our own truths through meditating and using critical thinking.

Society is filled with the concept of outsourcing everything to increase margins. On the subject of self development and reflection we can benefit greatly from the practice of insourcing. For every solution found externally must be internalized for any change to take place and solutions found by oneself within is one step closer to attaining a better direction for life.

Before asking what would XYZ Guru/Person do next time simply ask:

What would YOU do?
What can YOU do?

Then go out and find the answers from within.

Direction – The Lighthouse in a dark and foggy night

By: Heero Yuy

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I thought it appropriate to start the first blog post with direction because without it we may be lost forever navigating in the vast oceans of life. Emphasis should be placed on direction and not solution(s) because life is ever evolving for the players, environment, or game itself. In mainstream media articles can be found written by gurus purporting “# Steps used by Successful People” or “XYZ Effective Ways of dealing with ABC.”

The issue with the general consumption of these articles is that the reader is lead to believe that all will be well after they’ve successfully implemented the prescribed plan of action and life will be peachy living it happily ever after. For many of us we know this is not true because the article is written in such a way to have renewed subscription for readership, mainly to generate ad revenue and/or sell products and services of the respective gurus, so as to lead the audience to chase endlessly for the carrot or the next carrot that will solve all their problems. It never will.

What if life was never meant to be “fixed” and we live constantly in a continuous battle daily with wars waged internally in our minds between positive and negative thoughts and externally through physical exertion or conflicts with outside forces? If this were true, then any solution we throw at the problem of life is simply a band-aid solution to an everlasting problem that is essentially unsolvable. For any one or groups of guru to prescribe a possible solution to an unsolvable problem would make them a genius or a pauper with no fan base. Life is hard and people have been trying to figure it out for thousands of years with limited success. How do I know this? Because men such as Voltaire and Leibniz came upon an idea of the “best of all possible worlds.” We aren’t in it because our society is still imperfect after all these iterations so therefore we really haven’t figured it out.

Direction is fundamentally different than solution(s) but has also possess similar qualities. Google Maps can provide you a list of directions with steps telling you when to turn and where to go in an orderly fashion. Google Maps can also re-direct you if you go off-course to go back onto the path of least time expended to get to your final destination. In this case, Google does the solution or thinking for you to get you back on course with a new set of directions. Solutions would be like using print-out directions from MapQuest (for those of us who still know what that is). A guru like MapQuest would tell you how to get from point A to point B with a set of instructions and wish you the best of luck. If for some reason you go off course in the days before Google Maps, TomTom, Garmin, or any other GPS tracking system you better hope you have a printed map of your current area. Claiming to be a solution without the appropriate thought process or heuristics to dynamically adjust course is driving blind. You will quickly get lost and eventually ask the locals for direction.

The poem “Invictus” by Henley below best describes the purpose of this site and the view on direction for life. This excerpt from Invictus best describes gaining that direction for life:

“I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.”

Source: Invictus by William Ernest Henley (Poem)

I don’t have all the answers and my life is just as messed up as anyone else’s if not worse. Haha! Yes, I just laughed at that statement because laughter is a great medicine for a lot of ailments of the heart, mind, and soul. So, life isn’t perfect and there isn’t a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow if the rainbow exists in the first place. We won’t ever get that carrot at the end of the stick but are still told to run the race because that’s all we know. Anyone competent can wax philosophies about how messed up our world is and at the end still come away empty handed as if to shake ones fist and scream at the cloud filled night and stormy seas for not revealing the shining celestial salvation when your ship is rocked about in rough waters.

So what? With a strong sense that you are still the master of your own fate and captain of your own soul, as long as the ship weathers the storm you live to fight and navigate another day. That’s the beauty of having a sense of direction (vision, purpose, goals).

I’m here to share knowledge, stories, and wisdom so that others may also find their own sense of direction and sail to their respective peaceful shores. We collectively are lighthouses for each others lives in the journey of life. Through sharing experiences by storytelling we can act as guides to each other in the darkest of nights.

“Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”